submission is a gift | səb•ˈmɪʃ•ən ɪz ə ˈgɪft | idiom
A phrase in BDSM expressing support for the following beliefs:
- Fulfilling negotiated and agreed relationship arrangements is an extra bonus feature
- Consensual bottoming in relationships is more important or valuable than other negotiated relationship rôles or functions
- One relationship rôle can have more importance than another
- Bottoming can be done in the absence of topping
In practice, these beliefs conflict with the fulfillment of basic relationship requirements and expectations, and also minimise and invalidate the equivalent contributory value of all relationship participants.