These are the current rules of the bdsmireland yahoo group, updated on 3 March 2009. I have respected these rules throughout the entire duration of my membership. After banning me, the bdsmireland moderators confirmed that I have respected every bdsmireland group rule throughout the entire duration of my membership.
If for any reason the bdsmireland moderators banned me according to bdsmireland group rules which they neglected to mention, then I was banned according to group rules which are kept out of the published rules document. If there are any bdsmireland group rules omitted from the group rules document, then any member may be banned at any time. Obviously members will only be able to respect those rules which they know about, and so may transgress rules which have been kept secret.
If I was banned against bdsmireland group rules, published or not, then I point out to any remaining group members that bdsmireland group moderators clearly have no qualms about transgressing their own stated rules. They can and will ban members whenever, however, and whyever they choose, as you have seen. If the moderators are not accountable for transgressing their own rules, then you as members need to be aware of this.
The rules as they appear here are the exact same rules which are published in the bdsmireland yahoo group. In a few places, I have added a “(New!)” to indicate changes from the previous rules. I have reproduced these rules in full, complete in every detail, with no modifications or omissions, and absolutely free of any commentary from me.
(I was very tempted to add commentary, but I restrained myself).
However, I did add some explanatory notes at the bottom for certain specific additions which they added in response to me personally.
- BDSMIRELAND GUIDELINES
WELCOME TO BDSMIRELAND
ATTENDING A MUNCH
MODERATION OF POSTS
BLOGS/PERSONAL WEB PAGES (New!)
PROMOTION OF OTHER GROUPS
NOTICE FOR PRO-DOMMES
This is a reminder for members of the bdsmireland group about the guidelines governing participation here.
PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS IS A GROUP FOR ADULTS AND WE EXPECT MEMBERS TO BEHAVE AS SUCH (even if your preferred role is adult baby!! <g>)
WE ARE NOT THE UN AND WE DO NOT OFFER A BABY-SITTING SERVICE :-)
This list was created to provide a forum for people with an interest in BDSM and who are based in Ireland to come together, to chat, to learn from each other, and to meet; however, those living beyond this island are also welcome.
Whether you have made your way here as a result of a personal recommendation by an existing list member or through a search of Yahoo! groups please take a moment to read the following guide to participation on this list.
This list is founded on the principles of Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC), and/or Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK)
Safe words, safe calls, negotiation, communication, agreement, consent, and common sense. For more information on what this means please ask on the list.
Please complete the profile section on Yahoo! groups.
Feel free to include as much detail as possible as you are comfortable sharing in a public space. Bear in mind that this information is publicly available so discretion is advised.
Please introduce yourself to the list; contribute once in a while.
Make yourself comfortable here, get to know people, get a feel for the place. Post an introduction whenever you are ready (not a personal ad, see below). Tell us about your experiences to date, how you got interested and got involved with BDSM, how you found this discussion group and why you joined.
If you would like to attend a meeting/munch….
Contact the moderators (email@example.com) stating that you would like to come to a meet/munch. Include a contact name and number and the date of the event which you would like to attend.
This list does not permit personal ads.
If you want people to know about your physical appearance and what you are seeking please feel free to complete a detailed profile in the appropriate section. Alternatively, subscribe to bdsmireland-personals (www.groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmireland-personals/join). People will get to know you from your contributions to the list and possibly from meeting at one of our social gatherings. If they are interested they can and will check out your profile. If you post a message using the following or similar phrasing it will not be approved: “I am looking for a.. ” or “I am seeking a…” etc.
This is considered a personal ad.
Please do not send private emails/IMs to list members unless you have their permission/consent or they have indicated in their profile that unsolicited contact is acceptable.
(New!) If you receive such an email/IM, simply delete it. In the event of a problem/situation which you cannot resolve yourself please mail the moderators (firstname.lastname@example.org).
(New!) Please note that membership of bdsmireland-personals is considered an invitation to such contact.
All members’ posts are moderated.
This is because we do not want the list overwhelmed with spam, (New!) sometimes people disregard the “no personals rule” (see PERSONAL ADS above) and also to try and minimise the risk of “flaming” (see FLAMING below), and to edit certain links (see BLOGS below). If you have any queries on this please contact the moderators at email@example.com.
(New!) Links to Blogs/Personal Web Pages are not permitted in emails to the group. Please feel free to add such details to your Yahoo profile.
No flaming please.
Please treat other list members with respect and courtesy. How you behave to others on the list is a reflection of how you would behave with a Dom/me or sub. Good manners cost nothing. Please contact the moderators (firstname.lastname@example.org) if you have an issue with another member (arising from their/your participation on this group) that you cannot resolve privately. (New!) Those considered by the Moderators to be flaming, will first be warned and may ultimately be banned.
Attachments are not permitted. This is for your protection and helps prevent the spread of viruses. (New!) If you wish to upload a file, please contact the Moderators directly email@example.com with a description of the file’s contents.
We permit (limited) promotion of other yahoo groups. It is considered courteous to ask permission of the Moderators first. firstname.lastname@example.org
We permit limited commercial advertising. It is considered courteous to ask permission of the Moderators first. email@example.com We do not permit SPAM. (New!) You SPAM, we BAN!
If you are a pro-Domme, we would appreciate it if you left promotion of your activities and/or visits to Ireland to the Personals list (bdsmireland-personals: www.groups.yahoo.com/group/bdsmireland-personals/join). You provide an important service for many of our members but it is more appropriate to that forum. You are, however, most welcome to contribute to general discussions on bdsmireland.
There is no such thing as a stupid question.
(Well almost <S>) This list is a resource and brings together people with many years experience with those who have none. Ask and someone will answer, or point you in the right direction (there are probably half a dozen other people wanting to know the answer too).
If you have any questions, queries….
If you have any questions or queries that you would rather not post to the group – please contact the moderators privately (firstname.lastname@example.org). This applies if you have a problem with a certain procedure or another member which you cannot resolve yourself.
If it is a general query about bdsm, this should be directed to the group. If you are ever in doubt about something, please query the moderators.
Updated: March 3, 2009
Additions And Modifications Just For Me
Unsolicited Private Contact – Not long after I joined bdsmireland, I was repeatedly harassed by several different group members. Following the procedures in the rules at that time, I asked the moderators to enforce their ban on unsolicited private contact. Shortly after I made this request, their response was to add rules advertising their commitment to ignore transgressions of this rule.
Blog Links Prohibited – According to the group moderators, they were enforcing this rule for about three months before they got around to including it in the group rules document, or mentioning it to anybody, or anything.
So before any of this recent crap even started, the moderators implemented the prohibition on blog links just after I published this post. This drew my attention to the fact that my blog has been evolving into a well-read community resource, for which I am surprised and grateful. :)
And the moderators’ response to that post? Ban all blog links.
Extreme? You decide.
I wonder what other rules they have which they forgot to tell anybody about.