Eager To Learn


  • ea•ger to learn |ˈigər tə lərn|
  • adjective   (of self-referencing inexperienced kinky male bottoms)
    a euphemism used to covertly express a strong and impatient desire for sexual gratification, primarily via physical participation in a specific and distinctive set of erotic activities.
    Inexperienced kinky male bottoms predominantly use this euphemism in the context of seeking a person who will consent to indulge their desires to have kinky experiences.   Most have never had a kinky partner before.   Some have had either a one-time, occasional or otherwise brief experience of being with a kinky partner.   If they are in a long-term relationship with a non-kinky partner, then that relationship is usually significantly dysfunctional.
    This euphemism can often be  (but is not necessarily)  evidence of do me!! behaviour.
    This euphemism is identifiable in use by

    1. the shared traits of the erotic activity set, which include being
      • previously unexplored in-the-flesh
      • specific to the individual
      • limited in number
      • firmly fixed in the mind
      • conceptualised in considerable detail
      • the focus of long-established explicit fantasies
      • unstipulated to potential partners
    2. the characteristically coexisting false assumptions that
      • the desired set of erotic activities is the same for every kinky person, and therefore need not be specified
      • the desired erotic activities will automatically be known by kinky potential partners, and therefore need not be disclosed
      • the erotic desires will automatically be compatible with those of any kinky potential partners
      • expressed disinterest or incompatibility of desires represents a deliberate denigration or personal affront, and therefore merits a “retaliatory” personal attack
    3. the display of characteristic emotive responses to the  (inevitable)  conflict between such specific detailed desires, and those of the kinky potential partners
      1. genuine surprise
      2. disappointment
      3. refusal to
        • negotiate
        • compromise
        • accommodate
      4. anger

    Some Etymologicalness
    ea•ger  –  from Middle English  (also in the sense [sharp to the senses, pungent, sour] )  from Old French  aigre  ‘keen’,  from Latin  aceracr–  ‘sharppungent’.

    to  –  infinitive marker, used with the base form of a verb to indicate that the verb is in the infinitive, in particular • indicating a desired or advisable action.

    learn  –  from Old English  leornian  [learn]  (in Middle English also [teach] ),  of West Germanic origin; related to German lernen, also to lore.

      The researcher of this definition was not able to definitively establish the earliest documented instance of this euphemism in use by inexperienced kinky male bottoms seeking kinky partners.

      The researcher suspects but cannot conclusively demonstrate that it was first established in hard copy kinky personal advertisements seeking partners, and gained popularity concurrently with the early advent and later growth of dating websites, and subsequently kinky dating websites.

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About Lady Lubyanka

I am a 45 year old musician, and also a multisexual, polyamourous, Jewish, socially dominant woman within my romantic BDSM relationships.
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