So here is my version of the mouldy topic that is
The Worthless Worm
I think we’ve all encountered Worthless Worm at one time or another. He can be a “she”, but is most frequently a “he” in my experience.
Worthless Worm also enthusiastically advertises himself as Doormat, Waste Of Space, Useless Slave, Useless Submissive, Worthless Slave, Worthless Submissive, and a huge assortment of other titles in similar style.
Worthless Worm is another popular variety of the do me!!! submissive, with a bonus side order of stealth validation seeking thrown in at no extra charge. As a do me!!! submissive, pretty much all of the identifying features which describe do me!!! practitioners will also accurately describe Worthless Worm.
Imagine the advertising campaign –
- Don’t Buy This!!
Your time is being wasted right now exerting any focus at all on our worthless product!
Our product is valueless, useless, and pointless!
Our product cannot amuse, serve, or interest you in any way!
- Don’t Buy Our Product, and Don’t Buy It Right Now!!
(ring our free number NOW, to not buy now)
If you are Worthless Worm, can you see the problems we have with that?
Worthless Worm advertises himself (paradoxically loudly and with pride) as entirely lacking any personal value, worth, or interest of any kind. He then presents himself to you, somewhat like a dog with a chewed up ball, wagging his tail (or pictures of it), hopefully expecting you to somehow take an interest.
He is utterly bewildered when you do not.
Worthless Worm clearly and specifically solicits the interest of prospective partners by unequivocally advertising his totally valueless existence. If you happen to be one of his solicited prospective partners, and if you actually agree and reinforce to him (by disengaging) how worthless he really is to you, he will then begin to experience intense feelings of distress and fear. He is likely to start complaining in a child-like fashion –
- “No, that’s not right, that’s not how it’s supposed to go, do me!!!“
Like any do me!!! submissive, Worthless Worm is desperate for your time, focus, attention and validation, and will do anything and everything he can think of to get it. Unfortunately, his choices seem to mostly be limited to the responses most usually appropriate for a ±5 year old child. He pouts, he sulks, he argues, he has tantrums.
He remains invariably confident in his assumption that he must keep reinforcing his worthlessness to you, because – in his mind – that is the only sure-fire way to guarantee that he will be rewarded with your time and attention.
He then interprets your inevitable lack of interest as reinforcement for his feelings of worthlessness.
Any of this sound familiar?
What Worthless Worm expects, seeks, and craves, are responses like this –
Yes, I know, you are such a worthless worm, you are no use to me at all.
I validate your feelings of your own inferiourity, I validate your feelings that I am superiour to you, and I validate your normality for having this fantasy.
Come here to me so that I can clearly demonstrate my interest in your worthless carcass (and therefore, my interest in you).
I will keep rewarding you with my time, focus, attention, and validation by indulging your kink to be told frequently and repeatedly how insignificant you are and how important I am.
I will indulge your craving to be told what to do so that you don’t have to think or make decisions or be responsible for anything.
You will happily agree with everything I say, wag your tail, and hope that I don’t go away.
Unfortunately, Worthless Worm isn’t aware that he will never get this kind of response from a relative stranger unless he pays them for it. He is unlikely to ever understand that most reasonable people will not feel any kind of personal benefit from giving the kind of response which Worthless Worm fantasises about. Worthless Worm will need to have been in a personal social relationship for some time before she is likely to feel comfortable providing this kind of response.
Pro doms and financial predators will obviously be happy to do that kind of response straight away, of course.
Worthless Worm almost always claims to be a huge fan of any one of the number of ideologies advocating the inherent superiourity of women over men. But his behaviour more often than not reflects his misogynistic expectations that the superiour women will have needs and wants which by definition will service and indulge his needs and wants.
Worthless Worm doesn’t tend to appreciate that the prospective partners he regards as superiour will have their own needs and wants which are likely to differ from, and at times conflict with his own. So Worthless Worm’s misogyny is always guaranteed to reduce his chances of successfully attracting a partner.
- If it weren’t for Worthless Worm, then profit princesses would more or less have no business at all.
- Worthless Worm, in his usual style, utterly fails to realise that without him, profit princess is broke and out of a job.
- Paradoxically, Worthless Worm is solely and personally responsible for financing an entire industry. Profit princess knows this.
However useful Worthless Worm is to profit princess, unfortunately profit princess is most definitely detrimental to Worthless Worm. Profit princess uses emotional focus as bait, and thus Worthless Worm is particularly vulnerable to her manipulative money-spinning schemes.
Because of Worthless Worm’s extremely poor self-awareness, he doesn’t realise that what he actually wants isn’t the same as what he fantasises about wanting. His awareness of this only comes close to entering his consciousness when he feels distress and fear in response to a solicited person’s unwitting betrayal of Worthless Worm’s imagined fantasy scenario with responses he wasn’t seeking.
Worthless Worm experiences much less distress and fear with profit princess than he does with the prospective partners whom he solicits socially. This is because profit princess knows how Worthless Worm wants her to respond, and does so within close range of what Worthless Worm is so desperately seeking.
Whilst Worthless Worm is being manipulated and exploited by profit princess, he feels relatively minor emotional discomfort as compared to the distress and fear he experiences when a prospective social partner transgresses his expectations and disengages. This discomfort is usually more or less completely overshadowed by the joy he feels at having some of his needs serviced. That joy, so desperately sought, strongly encourages Worthless Worm to enthusiastically continue pursuing some of his more self-destructive goals.
Profit princess knows this, and often uses her knowledge of this fact to successfully exploit Worthless Worm for financial gain. Worthless Worm will remain particularly susceptible to this kind of manipulation until or unless his self awareness increases sufficiently to allow him to more fully understand his reasons for seeking out this kind of self destructive behaviour.
Until then, any attempts to explain or assist him will more than likely be unsuccessful.
- Run away very fast.
- Run away very fast and hide and be vewwwey vewwwey qwiet.
If you feel attracted to emotionally “rescuing” other people, you might especially want to run away and hide, even if you don’t want to run away and hide. In addition to attracting financial predators, Worthless Worm has a tendency to attract those who have strong feelings of wanting to help others.
Worthless Worm does not respond to assistance well. He will agree with you verbally, and you will feel good about helping. But some time later you will hear him complaining about the same things, and you will only then find out that he has actually done none of the things to help himself which he agreed he would try.
- You are vewwwey wikewy to feel vewwwey vewwwey fwustwated.
Believe me, I know, I’ve been there.
Only Worthless Worm himself can improve his chances in life and in partnerships. But he’ll have to want to, first.
Ok, that’s it (for now) for the current set of my definition posts.
(awwww, did I hear an “awwww“?)
I’ve got a list of post topics I put together, and I’ve been working from that. Don’t worry, there’s loads of topics left which I haven’t finished yet.
I don’t want to give too much away, but one of them definitely has a fork in it.
But for right now, I’m taking a bit of a break, cos I’m all blogged out. I’ll be back soon, though, promise. :)
xx Lubyanka. :)