I think we’ve all probably encountered the do me!!! practitioner in multitudinous areas of our lives. I personally first encountered the name of the species in descriptions of the do me!!! submissive in the context of the BDSM community. However, many of you (including myself whilst I was constructing this post) may be surprised to recognise elements of do me!!! practitioners from a diverse variety of social and business environments.
I mostly describe the do me!!! practitioner in the social context of seeking a partner. But with a little imagination, I’m sure you’ll be able to identify the do me!!! practitioner in all sorts of other areas of your life.
I was trying very hard to do an encyclopaedic or dictionary type definition (such as I did for hypocrism and One True Way), but it became crystal clear very early on that this approach was never going to work for me.
When I started doing this post I had a very specific idea of what I was going to come up with, and that happened to bear no resemblance at all to how this post ended up turning out. Whilst I was constructing it, I was as surprised as any of you will be to discover that there is quite a bit more to the do me!!! practitioner than simply being a one-track-minded dictating and demanding attention whore.
So instead I have put together my observations of the do me!!! practitioner, and my conclusions (which are based on and drawn from my observations) about what drives them.
For my own personal convenience, in this post I will be primarily referring to the do me!!! practitioners as “he”, and the people he solicits as “she”. This is because those pronouns reflect the bulk of my experience on this topic.
As a dominant woman I am seldom targeted by do me!!! women, so my experience with them is limited (although by no means absent). I am quite well aware that women can totally be do me!!! practitioners, and I am equally well aware that men can be solicited by those practitioners. In this post I use “he” for the the do me!!! practitioners and “she” for the people they seek unless I specifically state otherwise, simply so that I do not have to type “she/he” every single time.
- I’m not lazy thank you – I’m energy efficient. Yay me, go me. :D
So please be gentle with me if my pronouns don’t fit you, k? :)
(I’d just love to see disclaimers like that on some other sites I could mention)
In this post, I do sometimes phrase some of my experiences as if they were factual, instead of strictly as my experience. This is because I have drawn my conclusions from experiences which were sufficiently frequent and/or numerous that I have come to regard those conclusions as generally factual for me. Some of you may recognise some or all of my experiences as accurately reflecting your own experiences, and so they may be factual for you too.
The point I’m trying to make here is that these are only my experiences, and my own experiences are the only evidence I have for my conclusions. I am perfectly well aware that my experiences don’t represent proven facts which are categorically true for all time and for all people, ok? Just so that’s clear. :)
- (although they might very well turn out to be true, y’know, just by accident)
Ok, so first – a general picture.