What Every Man Should Know About His Prostate – Self Exploration Yumfest

A Man With A Prostate

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Of the many, many   unfortunate things about this world, I think one of my personal top ten must include the fact that most men are not aware of their prostate and its role in total and utter male sexual pleasure.

In my experience (as a woman with male sexual partners), introducing a man to the joys of his prostate for the first time, usually results in them falling to their knees and crying in gratitude. Of the men whom I have introduced to their prostate, this was most often the first result (prior to them begging for more).

Please keep in mind that I’ve seen this exact same response in vanilla life, just as I’ve seen it in power exchange. Anatomy does not require any specific erotic orientation in order to provide pleasure in response to the appropriate stimulation. And this is an anatomical feature, not an emotional one.

For example, the clitoris does not provide any less pleasure just because it’s being nicely stimulated by a vibrator instead of by a person.
 

• The prostate is an intense pleasure spot for ALL men who have a prostate.

 
 

Why Don’t More Men Know About This?

From what many men have told me, their   only   experience of having their prostate stimulated, was by a doctor, roughly, clinically, and painfully palpating their prostate to check for disorders.

Now, imagine if the only experience a woman had of her clitoris being stimulated was having it roughly pressed by the surgically gloved hand of a relative stranger. In that circumstance, she might find that she had no interest in her clitoris either.
 

• A relative stranger using rough, clinical touch on any part of your body is TOTALLY DIFFERENT to being stroked by your chosen partner who cares about you.

 
Think about it. The last thing your doctor wants to do is sexually arouse you. So most of them err the other way. For some messed up reason, most doctors would far rather hurt you than sexually arouse you.

If you think about the difference between some doctor roughly squeezing the fuck out of some part of you, as differentiated from having somebody you love stroking you gently, you might get a better idea of what’s up with that.

So, for the purposes of my prostate milking resource, I am including a guide to prostate self exploration, so that you may feel comfortable with it yourself before anybody else does it.
 
 

Before Leaping Into The Joys Of Anal Prostate Exploration – Some Important Stuff

Just as it is important for anybody who will be exploring this with you to be familiar with all of the information contained in this resource, it is also crucial that you understand it too.

So, before you get started, please familiarise yourself with the information on the following pages.
 
 
Prostate Resource Indexness
 
Reproductive System

• Your reproductive organs
• Your reproductive mechanisms
• A handy summary of your reproductive information

 
Medical Advisories

• Really important stuff about your anus and rectum
• More really important stuff about your prostate health and known medical risks of prostate massage
• You might not need gloves for self exploration, but here’s how to choose the most suitable ones
• Really important stuff you need to know about hygiene and prostate massage

 
 

Getting All Started Up

Ok, I’m going to assume that you were all responsible and everything, and thoroughly familiarised yourself with the material in the linked pages above. Because I cannot be held responsible for what happens regardless of whether you’ve read it or not, ok?
 
(that, however, is unlikely to stop me from taking credit if you end up falling in love with your prostate)   ;)
 
The prostate is an incredibly sensitive organ with zillions of nerve endings. It responds best when it is lightly stroked along the sides. It swells as arousal progresses, and it is then possible to stroke it in the middle where most of the sensitive nerve endings are.

My experience is that the prostate is every bit as erotic for men as the clitoris is for women, and perhaps even more.
 
 
Important Firsts
 

1. Please ensure that your fingernails are cut short and filed, so that everything is blunt and smooth and safe for your body. There must be no possible sharp edges anywhere.
    
   (the filing is very important)

 

2. You should urinate and/or defecate, just to ensure the bladder is empty and the perineum is relaxed. The bladder is directly adjacent to your prostate, so stimulating your prostate may trigger a sensation that you need to urinate. If you have done so already, you won’t need to again. Just be aware that this sensation is normal, it can happen, and is to be expected. However much you feel you need to urinate, you won’t, I promise.
    
   (unless you have a prostatic disorder I don’t know about)

 

3. You can stimulate your prostate externally by pressing on your perineum, in that spot behind your scrotum. You can try that first, if you haven’t ever done that before. Press firmly, upwards, towards your shoulder blades, and massage carefully. Try a couple of places if you don’t feel anything amazing the first time. You’ll know when you’ve found it.   :)

 
 
Prostateness In The Showerage
 
Normally what I suggest to men who have never explored their prostate before, is to explore it by yourself in the shower. Assuming you don’t have any prostate disease, or haemorrhoidal flare ups, I would recommend that you go in the shower, bring some lubricant in there with you, run the water til it’s just right,
 

• Please   do not force anything. This is supposed to be pleasurable.

 
You can start by gently stroking the outside of your anus with a lubricated finger. Get used to the feeling of a safe, non-threatening sensation there. You can keep stroking there for as long or as short as you like. It’s important to relax that whole area and feel comfortable with your body.

I think your index or middle finger is going to be the most optimal choice here.

Possibly both, if you can manage it.

When you feel ready, ensure you have absolutely   plenty   of lubricant on your finger(s), crouch down a little bit so you can reach better, and very,   very   gently, ease   your finger(s) in through your sphincter.
 

• If at any time, anything hurts, stop immediately. This is honestly supposed to be a pleasure-filled experience for you. Nothing should be hurting. Stop if it does.

 
If you’re ready when you ease your finger(s) inside, you should be able to feel them being kind of, sucked in through your sphincter.

Gently explore the inner walls of your anal and rectal canal. I find that the prostate is usually a similar distance in from the sphincter as the length of my index finger, so yours should hopefully be able to reach it easily.
 

• Take your time.

 
 
Found It!!
 
The prostate can be found on the lower wall of your anal canal.

You will know when you’ve found your prostate, partly from the sensations, and partly because it feels under your finger kind of like a polo mint with a dip in the centre. Try to avoid stroking the dip at first. because that’s where the most sensitive nerve endings are located.

My kvetch says that when I stroke his prostate, he can feel a direct sensation right in the head of his penis.

Stroke your prostate along the side and outer edges. As you get more and more aroused, you will feel it start to swell, and you will want to stroke it harder. That’s perfectly normal. You can masturbate as well, if you want to. Just be careful how hard you stroke in the centre where the dip is, because you may ache afterwards if you press too hard.

The amount of pressure you exert on your prostate should never exceed the amount you use to rub your eye.
 

• Please be gentle!

 
So, anyhow, do please persevere and try to find a way of stroking your prostate which feels pleasurable. Once you know your own body better, and you know yourself what you like, you can then describe that to any partners you have, and they can benefit from your knowledge and join in the fun.   :)

I promise you, it will be worth the effort. It seems such a crying shame that so many men are totally unaware of this HUGE pleasure spot in their bodies, and don’t have any fun with it.

Please, give it a try?

With the right kind of stimulation, it really is entirely possible, even likely, to have a powerful orgasm by prostate stimulation alone, and without any tactile penile involvement at all.

But of course, doing both is just spiffy.   :)
 
 

Now, That Wasn’t So Difficult

You might find Finding The Prostate – A Frank Account useful, written by my foodie friend SEXYGET 69.   I think you will find this very interesting, as it describes very well from a man’s perspective what it feels like to search for and ultimately find his own prostate, and the profoundly orgasmical and deeply pleasurable results therein.   :)

I hope that has answered at least   some   of your questions.   :)

If you like, you can proceed on to the rest of the prostate milking resource.

Thank you for reading, and good luck!   :D
 
 

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