Orgasm Denial And Chastity – The Beginning

Considering A Male Chastity Device

 
After all the stuff I’ve read about orgasm denial and chastity, the issue has appeared to have reared its ugly head (so to speak, lol) in my life.

When I first started with kvetch, he disclosed to me that he had a problem with addiction to porn and masturbation. When I’m with him, this isn’t an issue. When I’m away, this remains a problem for him at times.

Normally, I define a “problem” as:
 

Problem: Something which interferes with usual function enough to impede or impair it.

 
In kvetch’s case, when I’m not around, he finds that he spends more time than he can comfortably spare looking at porn and masturbating, sometimes for hours every evening. This can prevent him from completing other tasks.

Last time I saw him (oy vey, post about that may possibly be in the works) he suggested to me that chastity might be helpful for this issue. We were in a shop buying me a new pain toy to use on him, and whilst there, had a look at the CB-3000 which was on display in a glass case. There was also a stainless steel chastity device.

I didn’t really like the look of either of them, but the whole idea is rather hot. ;) I like the idea of holding the key to his genitals, a lot. :)

There are an unbelievable number of male chastity devices out there. The choice and variety is bewilderingly huge. That review site helped a great deal to clarify what it was I was actually shopping for.
 
 

Priorities

 
After having read a whole lot of reviews of people’s experiences with chastity devices on their cocks, a pattern seemed to be emerging regarding the importance of certain elements:
 

1. The Fit: From the reviews I read, it seems that the number one super duper urgent priority, is the fit. It seems that without a really excellent fit, the rest of the features don’t really matter.

   Some have hinges which may pinch, some have rivets which may chafe, some have seams which may irritate. Whether sanding, shaving with a knife, and/or covering things with surgical tape, it seems that every single one of them requires some customisation in order to get it fitting just so and without irritation or injury of any kind. What a faff.

   And since the fit varies so much what with people being all shapes and sizes and everything, reviews tended to go more on the comfort and security of the fit than on almost anything else. As a result, it’s really difficult to choose which chastity device will work the best for kvetch’s own size and shape. Clearly what works well for one will not necessarily work well for all, most, or even any others.

   Getting one custom made by a local artisan would seem to be one option. But since there aren’t any local artisans who make these in Ireland as far as I could find, it would be necessary to travel and make a whole holiday around getting a chastity device fitted, made, adjusted, and finalised. Also there would be the aftercare, customer service, and subsequent adjustments to consider. This does not seem to me to be an optimal solution for us.

   But fortunately, since kvetch is circumcised, many of the reviews I read indicated that male chastity devices are much easier to use with circumcised cocks than they are with penises which have intact foreskins. So, that’s one small mercy. :)

 

2. Design: Mostly I saw two basic designs for male chastity devices, either ones with a waist belt, and cock and ball cages with no waist belt. I have to say I much prefer the idea of something without a waist belt, although I couldn’t say why. I think it might be partly because I prefer the idea of kvetch wearing as little as possible (being a big fan of CFNM), and a belt just seems to make the whole thing more like clothing.

   There was a greater variation in the cock tubes than I would have at first imagined. Some were open ended, some had a simple bar on the end, some were closed on the end with just a hole for urination, some had several bars on the end, some had just a gap with no bars. Really, there are some very creative designers of chastity devices out there.

   Unfortunately, some chastity device designer/makers come and go with tiresome regularity. In some cases, the designer dies and that’s the end of the business. In other cases the designer goes out of business, and then with no warning reopens again. Some businesses have to close temporarily due to personal issues. Because it seems that this kind of business is never going to be a really huge profit generating financial monster, the business itself would appear to be as reliable as the individual running it. There’s nobody around to take up the slack if something happens to the business owner.

   There were a few really attractive looking devices out there which are no longer made. That was frustrating. But still, life goes on. :)

 

3. Escape Proof: Apparently some of these male chastity devices are relatively easy to escape from if the fit isn’t quite right, or if a person is of a certain size and/or shape, even if it’s not quite as straightforward to sneak back into the device again afterwards. This would appear to kind of defeat the purpose of a chastity device in the first place.

   Also, some are designed to be secured either only with a piercing, or in addition to a piercing, or without a piercing. My kvetch isn’t pierced at the moment, so he’d need one which can be secure without the need for a piercing

 

4. Urination: It would seem that for many of these male chastity devices, urination is best achieved sitting on the loo, otherwise things may get a bit messy. This is possibly an inconvenience for them. However, this is possibly some source of satisfaction for me. :p

   “So now you know what it’s like, hah, see how you like it, so there, nyah!”

 

5. Lube: Apparently, the best way to put on the male chastity device is to lube up the shaft of the penis and the scrotal area, and ease the ring and tube on using a cotton bud to keep any skin from getting pinched in the small areas where skin might get pinched.

   Also apparently it’s a good idea to apply some lube to the penis with a cotton bud whilst wearing the chastity device, after showering, to keep the skin in good condition.

   There would also appear to be something called “the stocking trick”, for getting into the device.

   This seems to involve putting a stocking over the shaft of the penis, threading the other end of the stocking through the bottom of the chastity device tube, using the stocking to pull the shaft of the penis down into the bottom of the tube, and then pulling the stocking off the shaft of the penis and through the tube, removing it completely. This can apparently create some difficulties if the owner of the penis is aroused by stockings. :p So it may be recommended not to put the stocking over the entire shaft of the penis, but perhaps only over part of it.

 

6. Materials: Essentially there seem to be two types of materials used in male chastity device manufacture, varieties of composite polycarbonate plastic material, and varieties of steel, with some occasional bits of aluminium thrown in, in some cases.

   Aesthetically, the male chastity devices aren’t, on the whole, works of art. Well, not to me, anyhow. They don’t dress up the male genital area in the way that, say, haute couture does. And at the prices of some of them, that’s a bit of a shame. But since I’m far more interested in function, rather than form, I don’t find that much of a problem.

   The few I have seen which do look pretty nifty all seem to be made from some kind of steel, which just isn’t suitable when considering airport security and things like that. So it had to be the composite polycarbonate, since I don’t want my keyholding style cramped in any way by having to take the thing off if there’s any security arrangements in the form of metal detectors. The ones in airports are pretty damn sensitive. And, you know, Ireland, security, all that stuff. One never knows when one is going to run into a metal detector.

   So, composite polycarbonate plastic material for me.

 

7. Extras: I looked at a lot of male chastity devices, and they all seemed to have extra stuff which could be added on as optional extras, whether it be different locks, permanently closing locks, different types of belt, different types of piercing security attachments, security add ons such as teeth and rings, the list goes on. It seems it just isn’t practical or possible to get a single all in one package that works, because of the individual sizing issues involved.

   Which is a bit of a bummer, actually. Just a little bit inconvenient. But until this niche market is served as it deserves, I don’t suppose this situation will improve at all.

   One unexpected recommendation for an extra came from a review from a police officer in the southern United States. He said he used a product on his chastity device called Rain-X on his device to help keep it dry after urination and showering. Pending a patch test on the skin to find out if there are any adverse reactions, I think that sounds like a splendid idea. :)

 
 

The Decisions

 
After much consideration, and reading of reviews, and looking at pictures, and considering features and design and stuff, I finally worked out that the only practical way to experiment is to actually buy one of these things and try it out.

This is just ever so slightly disappointing, because male chastity devices are quite expensive, and trying out even one, if it doesn’t do the job, can hardly be cost effective.

I did a lot of considering over a week of research trying to work out what was best. I even asked kvetch if he’d get a piercing if I asked him to. But that seemed a bit extreme, getting pierced just for a chastity device. Maybe it isn’t so extreme, but for a first attempt, it seems kind of a large step. So:
 

• Decision 1: No Piercing
• Decision 2: Composite polycarbonate plastic material
• Decision 3: A product from an established company which can provide adequate customer service
• Decision 4: A more or less ready-to-wear device and not a bespoke item
• Decision 5: Bite the bullet and get the extras

 
And so, having researched and read and looked at pictures and read more reviews and yet more reviews, I finally decided.
 
 

And The Winning Choice Is….

 

• The Curve Male Chastity Kit

 
 


• The Curve Points Of Intrigue

 
 


• KSD-G2 The Curve Chastity Anti Pull-Out Attachment

 
 


• CB Plastic Locks 10 Pack

 
 
Today I ordered everything from Lovehoney except the chastity kit, as it was the only thing which wasn’t in stock. So I ordered that from ChastityPlay, which I’ve never used before. It looks like a good site though.
 

 
• I even managed to get a bottle of Rain-X on eBay. :)

 
Everything is due to arrive this week.

Even my uber cool new flogger order (kvetch is getting me a new moose and some other yummies {some of which are vegan} for my birthday) is due to be finished and ready to ship this week, which is great, because I’ve got another one of those BDSM-themed nights coming up, and I’m due to be interviewing a prospective submissive soon as well.

Ooooooh, exciting times, yummy! :D

I’ll do a post on the new floggy goodnesses when they arrive. :)

And I’ll post updates on the chastity situation too, as I’m heading down to see kvetch with all the new goodies in a couple of weeks.

I feel like today has been a pretty good day. :)