You might be too far away to give me a hug, but you weren’t too far away to give me a genuinely big smile.   :)

Thank you.   :)

I feel compelled to give you a hug right now.

I look forward to exercising with you in future. :)

( with the proviso that I don’t have to actually exert myself in any way which involves effort or sweat or anything on my part :p )

Lubyanka. :)

I’d certainly be willing to consider a scene with you involving some kind of clothes swap/sharing thing, although I can’t really get my head round that fully just at the moment.

I’d be happy to share my clothes with you as a consensual exchange for me being allowed to just go ahead and use your body as I choose (oy, how hot a thought is THAT).

( and please try not to interfere with my fantasies of having you all subspacey and totally in my thrall and having you acknowledge/admit/confess that I was right all the time and you didn’t know what you could have been thinking )

( what with that being an imaginary fantasy and everything )

;)

Sue:

I don’t have any issues at all with chunking people and/or things together. I agree that doing this does help to keep stuff organised, at least in my own head. What I have problems with is when this is done judgmentally and/or presented as fact.

For example, I prefer something like:

“I find it’s much easier for me to notice when men flirt with me, and much harder for me to notice when women flirt with me.”

as opposed to something like

“Men flirt better than women.”

As a personal opinion, it doesn’t really matter to me whether the chunking judgments are positive or negative. I don’t prefer

“All French men are good in bed”

any more than I like

“All Irishmen are alcoholics”

Prejudice is making judgments without taking account of facts, regardless of whether those judgments are positive or negative. One person who celebrates one group of people based on skin colour (for example) can often be found exhibiting rejection of another group of people based on skin colour.

For me, this is an issue every bit as much about accuracy as it is about prejudice and intolerance. I don’t personally agree that all Jews are good any more than I would agree that all Arabs are bad.

There is also, for me anyhow, the issue of apportioning responsibility for something, when I see no logical connection between a certain behaviour and a certain result. But that may be for another post. :)

Thanks for stopping by, Sue. :)

Lubyanka.

Prejudices just don’t really work, although they are (oddly enough) natural. It’s a little difficult to walk around thinking of all the possible diversities of individuals. so we chunk information in our brains. Very natural. So this chunking of information becomes a kind of generalization, which in turn can get codified in the mind into a prejudice.

So the trick here, is when you are chunking information, you consciously remind yourself that there are exceptions for individuals.

Arafin

As you aren’t submitting to me, you don’t need my permission to wear the Marvin outfit, lol. I’m sure you will look very hot in it.

Actually, I do have a skirt which might fit the description of Marvin’s. ;)

( and I do look very hot in it :p )

Okay, how about this. We enter the club together, I’m wearing that skirt at first, and then halfway through the scene we change so you’re wearing the skirt. I think it’s ingenious: we’ll both look hot, we only need one skirt, and we’ll probably confuse everyone at the club, which is always a ton of fun.

Ok, you’re right, I totally had not gotten the political thing. Missed that one completely. I’m going to have to go away and consider that more fully. I still stand by my post, but I can see now that I was missing something critical to what you were saying. My bad. :) Thanks for pointing that out.

As you aren’t submitting to me, you don’t need my permission to wear the Marvin outfit, lol. I’m sure you will look very hot in it.

Actually, I do have a skirt which might fit the description of Marvin’s. ;)

( and I do look very hot in it :p )
 
 
Eileen,

Thanks for the clarification, and I very much look forward to reading your post.

These were really meaty comments, thanks everybody. :)

Lubyanka. :)